Industrial society has encouraged narcissism from the start each level of so called progress, is actually only progress toward pure narcissism all round. A truly beautiful person. And no you arent grumbling unnecessarily as you are in effect keeping him, and he isnt a dependent child, he is supposed to be a partner. I dont know why I cant stop caring about him. I am a 47 yo woman who has recently realised she is autistic and currently seeking a diagnosis.

Perhaps stepping back from your family, husband and anyone else in your life, and trying to feel if they have good vibes (as my autistic daughter says) may allow you to find those you want in your life and those you dont. All rights reserved. How what??? Please fill out all required fields to submit your message. I cant go to his house anymore so he comes to mine and can only see me the same days of the week, it bothers him to change the schedule, Mon, Wed, Sat evenings for the last 9 months now. I really struggle with this because codependents are urged to draw boundaries with people who do not meet their emotional needs. I am so glad I am not the only one struggling with this diagnosis dilemma. Im in a 30 year relationship with an empathic woman who is just wonderful. Hes extremely intelligent, honest and dependable. Retrieved from https://www.huffingtonpost.com/mark-goulston-md/just-listendont-confus_b_316169.html, Kellevision, (2015, August 6). I watched a DVD recently by a psychologist called Dr Richard Eisenmeyer. Our story is very sad and very damaging, but we didnt know that growing up, as we had to survive our family chaos.

But of course individual variation makes it possible that both can exist at the same time at moderate levels. The world upside down when you dont know yet that your family is a bunch of monsters trying to kill you since childhood who would.. even consider that as an option? Since they were all teaming up on me, i had no allies, i had no help. He was always right and I was wrong (even when I wasnt). WebFlaunting Rules or Social Conventions. The First and Last Freedom, by J.Krishnamurti Even if i had multiple therapies, therapists, psychiatrists. I didnt realize that but it makes sense. People are not.. really smart in general, sorry for straight talking. . I am VERY easy to wind up, tease and upset which absolutely delights the more sadistic narc. My reaction scared me and I finally left him for my own sanity. Yes they may not realise that their emotions confuse the more normal people, but they do have a certain amount of empathy. We all need enjoyment in life. your next words were, you might find there wasnt that many good things. How true, there was only feeling dehumanized and worth very little to him. And while they were all working on their own masterplans to ruins everyones life i was seeing, understanding the lies, manipulations. I feel its not going to be easy for him but there is no going back now.

He says he knows he cares for me because he can feel it when he hugs me. Break up and never look back. Break up and never look back. So I have had my time pulling my hair out and being hugely frustrated and desperate for an answer how to handle her. There is nothing really wrong with her she just doesnt think like I do. I did wonder whether someone could have both which is what brought me to this page. I just feel so incapable of meeting her needs in terms of being empathetic and sympathetic to her emotional needs. He is not classically autistic he was just diagnosed with autism 26 years ago. She kept sending me by force to therapies then after enable me to gamble use my father psychological attacks on me or do it herself if need be to take me down down then when at the bottom .. finish me off with a big loan i never wanted. The book if anyone is interested is Look Me In the Eye. Most libraries have it and most bookstores. In the begining of our marriage I did find it quite difficult to accomodate his ways which I believe I am a very patient and tolerant person but there has been many occassions where I feel very hurt. I might be too, just not as much as him so I try and sympathize with his unusual behavior but its getting harder to do. Other than that he completely fits the description of a narcissist not someone on the spectrum as per your chart above. I could easily be wrong about what I said. My brother came through without succumbing to smoking cigarettes, dope, gambling, therapy, or conventional medication. Narcissistic personality disorder is not the same as autism. the actual psychology . Holey moley, sometimes you have to go deep down in the comments to find the real deal :) Thanks! I had asked to be split per months.. or saved.. nothing.. except split in 2x5k and second 5k required my mother approval.. ok. 1 month and a half later i lost all im suicidal but i hide it. Overtime, he has also changed to do some of those things too. Theres an increased risk of social trauma from bullying, abuse, and alienation. Home Terms of Service Privacy Policy Sitemap Subscribe to The GoodTherapy Blog. I dont have a partner, I dont need one, my brain is now at peace not screwed up by someone else trying to manipulate it. We all have our problems, and sin. And more than anything else i do it.. for me ME I try to make myself proud not others Thats the weird thing with my condition. The Body Keeps the Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma, by Bessel Van Der Kolk It is liberating to understand the situation and adjust yourself accordingly rather than expecting the situation to adjust to you.

I cant change the world so i try to take what i can and leave the rest but its complicated. Right now Im being benched as they call it, left out of the game for not playing well. There is a site called First Wives World that may be of help as well. Most worrisome is that he repeats the same stories of his job, his ex wives, his children like hes never told them before.

I am very grateful he is in my life. 2. The reason Im relating this is because whether a person is Autistic or otherwise they are people!!!! Im not perfect either but telling him my point of view or that you feel left out or asking for the same emotional support I give him (my daughter is going through tremendous health problems) shouldnt be called a lecture. Good luck. This is one that helped me to lift the clouds of confusion I had. My father has a warped sense of reality, but at the same time he is quite anti social and has reccently had issues with anxiety. Autism Spectrum Disorder Doesnt understand social interactions. What you are saying definitely makes sense. The DVD was called Imagine Having Aspergers Syndrome. He spoke about one of his patients having an attitude that he was king and the rest of his family were his servants. and sympathise and I think that may be where some people with Aspergers may have difficulty. Later i also discovered solid proof throughout my life that my parents enabled my addictions and used them to destroy me. I came from a home where there were lots of people always in our home and we shared everything we had.

Im too strong of a person to let the pain and frustration linger for too long; but at the moment my curiosities are running on high, high octane searching for answers given the information and memories I have of our brief relationship. Thats how i dealt with previous therapist that was trying to destroy me same way as my mother was.I had to write down her acitons and words in a general email to the healthcare departmet where she was working to have them and her figure she had fucked up. I believe that is always possible. Break up and never look back. I am finally free from the emotional yoyo that was my life and feel such relief. I wonder if Im attracted to this kind of person because I understand and feel so much for them. They are capable of approaching you. I went to visit a friend for a week and when I regaled him what we did he said you talk too much about her just blew me away considering the hours Ive sat and listened to him about his whole life. I see him starting to ask me questions about myself because I think (hope) hes beginning to care about me more. Narcs are all about the power and putting poeple in their place i.e. When we look at the relationships that NPDs get into, the other person is often vulnerable in some way and time and time again, I am finding that when we look at the parents of NPDs, one is NPD and the other is ASD. He can be as sweet as pie and can be mean and cruel I suspected autisim (his nephew has a more than moderate case living with supervision in a home). Psychopaths, autism, empathy, and mirror neurons. So I did some ringing around different psychologist and was finally given the contact details of one that did. When I read those two lists of traits, one for autism and one for narcissism, some time ago, I felt they were a basic set. When I spoke to my autistic daughter about this, she said thats how she sees the world. Its possible that my subconscious just wanted that bridge to burn once and for all. Hes repetitive to an almost pathological degree, telling the same story from start to finish sometimes day after day. Because my daughter is a slow reader and finds it hard to take in all the information at once, I have been reading these books to her one chapter at a time in the evening. As such, the content is potentially dangerous to autistic individuals. And it was clear, looking back, his autism was in fact a bit to blame. Aspergers in Australia is now called Autism and is on the autism spectrum. Does he do horrible things, yes. I dont want to be selfish but I also need to know how do I have a voice in these situations? Great info! So in recent years Im stronger than ever and able to stand my ground. Ive lived with a Narcissist/abuser now for almost 44 years. Always calm.. no drama.. no.. nothing. But anyway the novel is getting long again so ill leave it there for the story. He never asks how I am, and only asks what I think about something to help him make a decision, because hes incapable of making them. Well if i were i would surely read articles like this to find out sollutions for problems :p Anyway the consensus that narcissism is incurable seems a very challenging statement but it is beyond my scope to decide if thats true.. Mel, you are incorrect. Infantilization of adult children can be a common behavior among parents with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). I mean therapies and such helped but .. really.. 10% therapy 10% medications 80% my own discoveries and work on myself. I been destroyed and they tried to ruin my life up to .. erasing it for decades. Hello Freja, I understand there are four levels of autism. Narcs if only they could self-destroy each other instead of trying to beat the few good people that are left in this world haa :(. Narcissism is characterized by an inflated sense of You dont need a religion to know that demonic possession is real, just because materialism denies it. I feel there are no two individual people in this world that are the same or lets say I have never met them, but then I am no expert on this. I loved the world, everyone. 9. Perhaps he acquired a paranoid personality disorder on top of that or at least depressive traits.

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